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A Letter to my son

Do everything without complaining or arguing, so that you may become blameless and pure, children of God without fault in a crooked and depraved generation, in which you shine like stars in the universe as you hold out the word of life—in order that I may boast on the day of Christ that I did not run or labor for nothing.”- Philippians 2:14-1

Kohen,

I am writing this for you to read in the year 2020 when you will be a preteen.  Since you have blessed our lives I think about the life you will have and the man you will be.  You are at a wonderful stage in life, you will learn and grow so much in the years to come. I have some things that I want to tell you about life.  What I think will probably change as you grow and I learn to know you better. 

Learn to stand up for what you believe in.  Don't listen to what your friends think. Learn to do it for yourself.  When you make mistakes learn from them.  Don't lie to me, the truth always has a way of coming out.

Kids will be cruel for no reason at all.  They will bully and try to hurt you.  There isn't much you can do about these people but accept and learn to deal with them.  Learn to choose friends who are kind to you, that care about you for who you are.  These good friends hold on to them and treasure them.

If you choose to drink, don't drive.  Pick up a phone and call me, I will come and get you no matter where you are or what time it is without judgment.

Life isn't a competition.  Many will try and out do you, in school, college in work.  Many of them will have nicer cars more money than you.  But to them life is a competition.  Life is a journey.  Learn to enjoy the journey. It will take you many places and you will have many memorable experiences. It will make you happy, it will make you sad, you will experience love and heartache.

Girls, We are complicated, you won't understand us so don't even try.  If a girl is mean to you, just walk away don't even bother with her.  Don't let them use or walk all over you.  Have respect for the girls that you like.  Be kind, be sweet, be confident, be smart, be supportive, listen, and talk about yourself.  Don't be cocky or a know it all.

Drugs and alcohol.  I'm not going to tell you to never try them.  Don't drink under age and please wait to do anything until you are in college.  You will have 4 years to try many new things and get it all out of your system before you enter a career.  Be careful, be safe, stay with friends, don't over do it.  Have fun but not too much!

Choose a career that you love, that you will be passionate about.  Don't accept a job just to pay the bills.  You will have many jobs along the way.  Learn to save, you can still enjoy your money and spend some.

If you decide to move to another state promise me that you will come visit at least 2 times a year!

Most of all LOVE.
I will always love you no matter what, you are a part of me, you are my son!

1 Corinthians 13:1-8a and 13
If I speak in the tongues of men and of angels, but have not love, I am only a resounding gong or a clanging cymbal. If I have the gift of prophecy and can fathom all mysteries and all knowledge, and if I have a faith that can move mountains, but have not love, I am nothing. If I give all I possess to the poor and surrender my body to the flames, but have not love, I gain nothing. 

Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.
Love never fails....And now these three remain: faith, hope and love. But the greatest of these is love (NIV)


 Love, 
            Mom

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